Jul 232024
 

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

The Sex Shed, How to Recognize Anal Safe Sex Toys in 8 Easy Steps

Blogging

Ramone Quides, Destroyer of Good Erotica!

LA Jayne, Against the Discourse

Erotic Non Fiction

Kristina J, The True Essence of Giving and Taking in Intimacy: The Wheel of Consent

Beyond Non-Binary, What do you Call a Gathering of Dominatrixes?

Product Reviews

Morgan Destera, TOY TEST – Funzze Glass Butt Plug with a Surprise

Betty’s Toy Box, Sharing is Caring: The Strapless Strap On Vibrator for Couples

Sydney Screams, Mr Hankey’s Toys Beowulf Fantasy Dildo Review

Princess Preview, Funzze Mini Realistic Dildo

State of the World

Witch of the Wands, Heat Up Your Travel: Pack and Play with Sex Toys on the Go

Interviews

Unicorn Hunting Blog, Zara Du Rose interview: ZDR events and how to become a celebrity on the UK party scene

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Buzzing Babe, Open the Doors to Light BDSM for a New Dimension of Pleasure

Sex Toy DB, 4 Ways to Use the Kiiroo Keon as a Mind Blowing Fucking Machine

Stan’s Swingers, Swinging and Exhibitionism/Voyeurism: Embracing Public Play

barefoot sub, A nipple and dreams of piss

Books and Movies

The History of BDSM, The Feeling That the Time for Doing Something Has Passed (2023): The Celluloid Dungeon

Body Talk

Hannah McKnight, Behold, the Power of Forms

Peach Kisser, How to Feel Sexier – 5 Perspectives for a Body Positive Mindset

Sex Work

Sex worker Search, Best Business Practices For Sex Work Industry Websites According to VISA

Oz Bigdownunder, Just a Cock in a Cage

Sandra, Summertime Gangbang

Hellga, Malasana Pose Anal Action

The Siren Domme, Review: The Nest’ By Loonerfun

Jul 232024
 
Jul 152024
 

Femina Ridens (aka The Laughing Woman, The Frightened Woman) is a 1969 Italian psychological drama, starring Philippe Leroy and Dagmar Lassander, and directed by Piero Schivazappa. IMDB

Dr. Sayer kidnaps Maria, a young woman, and locks her in his prison-like apartment, saying he will psychologically torture her into loving him, then kill her. Maria, however, is much more than she appears.

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Jun 292024
 
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The Feeling That the Time for Doing Something Has Passed is a 2023 comedy-drama, directed and written by Joanna Arnow and starring Arnow, Scott Cohen and Babak Tafti. IMDB

Ann, a thirty-something woman in New York City, seeks relief from the difficulties with her job and family through submission to various men.

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Jun 172024
 
  • The Chicago Reader profiles the House of Milan, one of the oldest and best known purveyors of fetish clothing and other products. It tells of how it began as a boutique clothing store called Futura Fashions in 1964.
  • On Archive.org, I found what appears to be an English translation of Die Damen im Pelz (Those Ladies in Pelts), said to be a collection of German short stories published in 1920 by “Wanda von Sacher-Masoch”, aka Aurora von Rumelin, ex-wife of Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. I can’t vouch for the authenticity of this text or the translation.
  • Another Archive.org find is an excerpt from the 1967 pseudo-documentary exploitation film The Lusting Hours, featuring glimpses of flagellation and high-heel trampling.
  • Sir Guy is organizing a virtual education event on August 7th on the history of people of color in Leather and BDSM. Fetlife event
  • ACES-Knoxville is holding a virtual education event on June 26th about Leather History. Fetlife event
  • Shunga Gallery magazine profiles the life and work of Robert K. Bishop, a prominent bondage artist in the 1970s and 1980s.
May 182024
 
May 182024
 

Remedy is a 2013 drama directed by Cheyenne Picardo and written by Picardo et al.

A young woman known only by her nomme de domme, Remedy (Kira Davies), explores the world of professional domination and submission. She has some experience with BDSM at a night club, where she met a woman named Astrid, who hooked her up with a dungeon in NYC. Her motivation isn’t clear, whether it’s money or something else. (She has an unseen boyfriend and works as a children’s tutor.)

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May 132024
 
Natalie (Nicole LaLiberte) speaks with her fellow pro dommes

My Normal is a 2009 comedy-drama about a professional dominatrix living in NYC, directed by Irving Schwartz, written by Abdul Malik Abbott, Renee Garzon, Keith Planit, and Adam Sales, and starring Nicole LaLiberte. Amazon

Natalie (aka “Ashley”) juggles her work as a pro domme with pressures from her family to get married and have kids, and looking for love as a lesbian. She gets her break to work in the film industry but encounters a new set of problems.

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Apr 152024
 
Apr 112024
 

Mary Gaitskill’s short story “Secretary” (previously discussed) was first published in 1988, then was eventually adapted into the 2002 film Secretary. I’ve already discussed the differences between the script by Erin Cressida Wilson and the film directed by Steven Shainberg, so there’s a kind of family tree connecting the story and the movie.

Gaitskill herself has described the film as “the Pretty Woman version of my story.” (Gaitskill, Mary. “Victims and Losers: A Love Story; Thoughts on the Movie SecretarySomebody With a Little Hammer: Essays, Pantheon Books: New York, 2017) Last year, the New Yorker magazine published (March 27, 2023) Gaitskill’s follow-up story “Minority Report”. It tells the story of Debby and her life after her encounter with “the lawyer,” now given the name of Ned Johnson.

“Minority Report” is less a sequel than a retelling of the same event from Debby’s changed perspective as a woman in her 50s, and her difficulty in understanding and expressing her experience. The title explicitly comes from the Steven Spielberg film of the same name, in which precognitive people experience flashes of future events while kept in a sedated state, and a team of detectives have to interpret these scattered, impressionistic glimpses of possible crimes and decide what to do.

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