Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Pleasure Me Now, Virtual Vibrations: Bringing LDR Bliss With Blowjob Machines
Tantric Sexual Healing, Awakening Intimacy: A Tantric Journey to Sacred Sensuality
Erotic Fiction
Fern River Cub, Luc listens in
Lexi Rose, The Message: A Short Erotic Story – Part 1
Modesty Ablaze, “A Naughty Surprise” Part 4 of my Hotwife Diaries Audio Reading
Product Reviews
Sydney Screams, The Bivius Alien Dildo by Uberrime
Morgan Destera, TOY TEST – Funzze Black Fantasy Dildo
Liz X, Kiiroo Pearl 3 Vibrator Review: Remote Play & Video Sync Make It Unstoppable
Sex Toy DB, The Top 5 Squirting Dildos in 2024 to Simulate Ejaculation
Of Sex and Love, Heidi
Erotic Non Fiction
Awakening Your Inner Essence, A Tantric Perspective on Reclaiming Our Inner Worth
Kristina J, Humiliation To Liberation: A Dance Of Desire – 10 Years Of Submission
barefoot sub, Dancing In The Dark
Femina Viva, Managing the “feels” when visiting a companion
Sex Work
Carman Fox, Master Escort Communication
Thornhill Digital, The Future of Labour Rights Within Online Sex Work
Elizabeth, Torture Goddess
Sex Worker Search, Sex Worker Blogs via RSS Feed
Oz Bigdownunder, Oz in Dubai. Australian Halal Sausage is Back on the Menu
Books and Movies
The History of BDSM, The People’s Porn: A History of Handmade Pornography in America, by Lisa Z. Sigel
Writing about writing
Ramone Quides, When One Door Closes, Meditation Begins
- The re-election of Donald Trump as president of the United States may have far-reaching impacts on the production and distribution of distribution of pornography in the USA, particular kinky material. The US Supreme Court, now right-leaning, might overturn the 1972 Miller decision that protected material as art.
- The Sex and Psychology podcasts interviews Esmee Louise James, author of the new book Kinky History, about the myth of the Victorian vibrator, and how the true history of the vibrator is actually stranger.
- Richard Perez Seves has previously published biographies of kinky artists Charles Guyette, Eric Stanton, and Gene Bilbrew, and his magnum opus is his new biography of John “Willie” Coutts, artist, photographer, and publisher of Bizarre magazine.
- The Nation interviews Anna Poletti, the author of the new novel Hello, World?, about a pair of people who, displaced from their former lives, enter a dominant-submissive relationship. In particular, it talks about how their genders and political backgrounds influenced their kink (e.g. the sub is a man from a privileged background in Orban’s Hungary). It also comes a little too close to the idea of bdsm-as-therapy.
- Archive.org is back online, thankfully, and here are a few new finds:
Sanctuary is a 2022 drama film directed by Zachary Wigon and written by Micah Bloomberg. IMDB Amazon
This essay contains spoilers.
Sanctuary resembles David Ives’ stage play Venus in Fur (film adaptation by Roman Polanski): it focuses on two people in a single location, and deals with the constantly shifting power relations between a man and a woman.
Hal (Christopher Abbot) is the heir of a hotel empire. He’s about to be appointed the CEO after the death of his father. In the luxury suite of one of the hotels, he meets with Rebecca, who at first appears to be a lawyer who will interview him for the position. This escalates into a humiliation scene of Rebecca watching while Hal cleans the toilet in his underwear.
Continue reading »The Leather Boys is a 1964 British “kitchen sink” drama film about the working-class motorcycle club culture of the early 1960s. While featuring little explicit sex of any kind, it does provide a glimpse of the leather-clad biker culture of the time in the UK. It was also an early sympathetic treatment of male homosexuality in British film. Amazon
Continue reading »Sigel, Lisa Z. 2020. The People’s Porn : A History of Handmade Pornography in America. London: Reaktion Books. Amazon
In the early 21st century, we think of pornography as a ubiquitous, mass-produced, and corporatized phenomenon. Sites like PornHub present the viewer with vast quantities, individually tagged according to theme and sexual act. Advances in video production and distribution technology means almost anybody can make and consume sexual content with a high degree of technical quality and specificity.
Sigel’s book explores an entire history of what might be called “craft” or “artisanal” erotica, produced in single items or small sets, and using a wide variety of media, from carved whalebone to modified mass-produced photos to handmade garments. Many of the items discussed in the book aren’t “erotica” in the usual sense, i.e. items intended to arouse the viewer, perhaps as an aid to masturbation. These artifacts, such as a carved wooden figure of Abraham Lincoln with an erection, might more accurately be described as “adult novelties”.
Continue reading »- PinkLabel.tv is streaming a series of BDSM films and documentaries for queer history month, including Remedy (2013), Bloodsisters (1995), Thee Debauchery Ball: Director’s Cut (2022), The Secret Love Life of the Urban Leopard (2019), The Wrong Airbnb (2024), and many others.
- Going back to the 1990s, The Observer looks at Janet Jackson’s kinky 1997 album The Velvet Rope, and the role of BDSM in 90s pop and her career in particular.
- Atlas Obscura profiles Chez Christiane, a Paris brothel specializing in “special passions”. Unfortunately, it closed in 1946 and all that remains now is a building facade.
- The Betwixt the Sheets podcast discusses sex in ancient Mesopotamia. While only loosely related to BDSM, this discussion does examine how different practices of sex and gender can be in other societies, and how modern-day historians can project their own misconceptions into the past.
- The American Medical Association’s Journal of Ethics published a brief history of how different editions of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual handled homosexuality, BDSM and other “deviant” sexualities.
- Jessie Meadows wrote a critique of Anna Lembke’s book Dopamine Nation, which shows how “porn addiction” discourse ties into old Calvinist ideals of self-denial and hard work, and into modern neoliberal ideas of self-regulation. This is one thread going into the neo-puritanism rising in modern society.
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Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Musings of a Switch, Porn thoughts
Tantric Sexual Healing, Sacred Sex: A Path to Deep Connection and Spiritual Awakening
The Disorderly House, How to Fuck Yourself, An Ultimate Sexual Self Intimacy Guide
Betty’s Toy Box, Experience Your Ultimate Pleasure: 10 Types of Orgasm for You to Try
Erotic Non Fiction
Kristina J, Manners Matter: Why Being Polite is Sexy (and Non-Negotiable, Even for Sex Workers)
Awakening Your Inner Essence, Exploring The Full Body Orgasm: A Personal Journey as a Tantric Practitioner
Little Red Spanking, The Lover’s Spat: A Paddle Story
Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish
Pain as Pleasure, Building A Role Play– Chat GPT and the end (or beginning) of everything
Erotic Fiction
Jerusalem Mortimer, In the Realm of the Sensei Prologue-3
Sugarbutch, Don’t Swallow
Jasmine Gold, A Nun’s Humiliation
Product Reviews
Buzzing Babe, The Best Male Vibrators for Pleasure You Didn’t Know Existed (2024)
Liz X, Powerful Pleasure: Kiiroo’s Duo Powerblow FeelPocket Stroker
Sex Work
Hellga, One Overnight in Paris. Fly Me to You
Miss Kim Rub, Top Five BDSM Practices
Sex Worker Search, How to Send a Takedown Request to an Escort Directory
Femina Viva, How to Set Your Price (or not) as a Sex Worker
Sandra, Flogging, DP and Two Pearl Necklaces. A Duo with Oz
Nuit d’Or, Self-care For Dominants
Oz Bigdownunder, I Fucked Her Sissy Tits Off. A Duo with Lady Ava Sheridon and Her Sissy Slave
Books and Movies
History of BDSM, Strangeland (1998): The Celluloid Dungeon
Poetry
Simone Francis, Watch Me
“Sado Machismo” is an essay written by Edmund White and published in New Times, 8 January 1979, reprinted in the collection The Burning Library (Knopf, 1994)
White wrote this at a very different time: Not even ten years after Stonewall, before Cruising and definitely before HIV. The collection notes this essay was “… published during the height of Anita Bryant’s anti-homosexual campaign in Florida and in the midst of the Briggs Amendment campaign in California.” Gays and lesbians fighting for their rights to work as teachers were in the news, but a certain kind of “queer chic” was in the air too.
Continue reading »Choke is a 2008 dark comedy based on a novel by Chuck Palahniuk, written and directed by Clark Gregg. Amazon
When I’ve asked leather guys whether they’d rather make it with a real Con Ed [repair] man or a lawyer who looks like one, the question baffles them. It lies outside the system of their fantasies. In their hearts they may know that the lawyer would be more adventurous and uninhibited lover, but their passion demands he at least appear to be a worker.
White, Edmund. 1979 “Sado Machismo”, from The Burning Library: Essays , Knopf, New York, 1994
Victor Mancini (Sam Rockwell) is a recovering, self-described “sex addict”, who fakes choking in restaurants so that he can emotionally manipulate his rescuers, which is to pay for supporting his Alzheimer’s-afflicted mother Ida (Anjelica Huston). He also works as a Colonial American historical re-enactor, performing a sanitized version of historical times.
(Spoilers ahead)
Continue reading »Storr, Merl. 2003. Latex and Lingerie : Shopping for Pleasure at Ann Summers. Oxford: Berg. Amazon
Ann Summers is a UK brand of lingerie and sex toys, sold by brick-and-mortar stores, by online retailing and by a system of “Ann Summers parties”, in which saleswomen organize parties and directly market goods to the (all female) attendees. These goods include lingerie, sex toys, and related items. In particular, they sell bondage cuffs, light impact implements and other BDSM equipment. The Ann Summers parties are a point where “the rubber meets the road”, where people (i.e. hetero, vanilla women) have their first direct contact with BDSM toys, and the concept of BDSM play in general. Merl Storr’s book, based on interviews with party hosts and participant observation, presents valuable insights into how vanilla/hetero identities can change to accommodate the purchase of BDSM gear, if not the actual use of such.
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