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Oct 152024
- PinkLabel.tv is streaming a series of BDSM films and documentaries for queer history month, including Remedy (2013), Bloodsisters (1995), Thee Debauchery Ball: Director’s Cut (2022), The Secret Love Life of the Urban Leopard (2019), The Wrong Airbnb (2024), and many others.
- Going back to the 1990s, The Observer looks at Janet Jackson’s kinky 1997 album The Velvet Rope, and the role of BDSM in 90s pop and her career in particular.
- Atlas Obscura profiles Chez Christiane, a Paris brothel specializing in “special passions”. Unfortunately, it closed in 1946 and all that remains now is a building facade.
- The Betwixt the Sheets podcast discusses sex in ancient Mesopotamia. While only loosely related to BDSM, this discussion does examine how different practices of sex and gender can be in other societies, and how modern-day historians can project their own misconceptions into the past.
- The American Medical Association’s Journal of Ethics published a brief history of how different editions of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual handled homosexuality, BDSM and other “deviant” sexualities.
- Jessie Meadows wrote a critique of Anna Lembke’s book Dopamine Nation, which shows how “porn addiction” discourse ties into old Calvinist ideals of self-denial and hard work, and into modern neoliberal ideas of self-regulation. This is one thread going into the neo-puritanism rising in modern society.
Oct 152024
Elust is the only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month.
Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice, or kinky discussions, it’ll be here at Elust.
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Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Musings of a Switch, Porn thoughts
Tantric Sexual Healing, Sacred Sex: A Path to Deep Connection and Spiritual Awakening
The Disorderly House, How to Fuck Yourself, An Ultimate Sexual Self Intimacy Guide
Betty’s Toy Box, Experience Your Ultimate Pleasure: 10 Types of Orgasm for You to Try
Erotic Non Fiction
Kristina J, Manners Matter: Why Being Polite is Sexy (and Non-Negotiable, Even for Sex Workers)
Awakening Your Inner Essence, Exploring The Full Body Orgasm: A Personal Journey as a Tantric Practitioner
Little Red Spanking, The Lover’s Spat: A Paddle Story
Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish
Pain as Pleasure, Building A Role Play– Chat GPT and the end (or beginning) of everything
Erotic Fiction
Jerusalem Mortimer, In the Realm of the Sensei Prologue-3
Sugarbutch, Don’t Swallow
Jasmine Gold, A Nun’s Humiliation
Product Reviews
Buzzing Babe, The Best Male Vibrators for Pleasure You Didn’t Know Existed (2024)
Liz X, Powerful Pleasure: Kiiroo’s Duo Powerblow FeelPocket Stroker
Sex Work
Hellga, One Overnight in Paris. Fly Me to You
Miss Kim Rub, Top Five BDSM Practices
Sex Worker Search, How to Send a Takedown Request to an Escort Directory
Femina Viva, How to Set Your Price (or not) as a Sex Worker
Sandra, Flogging, DP and Two Pearl Necklaces. A Duo with Oz
Nuit d’Or, Self-care For Dominants
Oz Bigdownunder, I Fucked Her Sissy Tits Off. A Duo with Lady Ava Sheridon and Her Sissy Slave
Books and Movies
History of BDSM, Strangeland (1998): The Celluloid Dungeon
Poetry
Simone Francis, Watch Me
Oct 042024
“Sado Machismo” is an essay written by Edmund White and published in New Times, 8 January 1979, reprinted in the collection The Burning Library (Knopf, 1994)
White wrote this at a very different time: Not even ten years after Stonewall, before Cruising and definitely before HIV. The collection notes this essay was “… published during the height of Anita Bryant’s anti-homosexual campaign in Florida and in the midst of the Briggs Amendment campaign in California.” Gays and lesbians fighting for their rights to work as teachers were in the news, but a certain kind of “queer chic” was in the air too.
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Choke is a 2008 dark comedy based on a novel by Chuck Palahniuk, written and directed by Clark Gregg. Amazon
When I’ve asked leather guys whether they’d rather make it with a real Con Ed [repair] man or a lawyer who looks like one, the question baffles them. It lies outside the system of their fantasies. In their hearts they may know that the lawyer would be more adventurous and uninhibited lover, but their passion demands he at least appear to be a worker.
White, Edmund. 1979 “Sado Machismo”, from The Burning Library: Essays , Knopf, New York, 1994
Victor Mancini (Sam Rockwell) is a recovering, self-described “sex addict”, who fakes choking in restaurants so that he can emotionally manipulate his rescuers, which is to pay for supporting his Alzheimer’s-afflicted mother Ida (Anjelica Huston). He also works as a Colonial American historical re-enactor, performing a sanitized version of historical times.
(Spoilers ahead)
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Storr, Merl. 2003. Latex and Lingerie : Shopping for Pleasure at Ann Summers. Oxford: Berg. Amazon
Ann Summers is a UK brand of lingerie and sex toys, sold by brick-and-mortar stores, by online retailing and by a system of “Ann Summers parties”, in which saleswomen organize parties and directly market goods to the (all female) attendees. These goods include lingerie, sex toys, and related items. In particular, they sell bondage cuffs, light impact implements and other BDSM equipment. The Ann Summers parties are a point where “the rubber meets the road”, where people (i.e. hetero, vanilla women) have their first direct contact with BDSM toys, and the concept of BDSM play in general. Merl Storr’s book, based on interviews with party hosts and participant observation, presents valuable insights into how vanilla/hetero identities can change to accommodate the purchase of BDSM gear, if not the actual use of such.
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Strangeland is a 1998 thriller/horror film written by and starring Dee Snider (of 80s glam metal band Twisted Sister) and directed by John Pieplow. Amazon
Continue reading »Sep 152024
The Presbyterian Lash is a short satirical play from 1661 by Francis Kirkman, a rogue-ish author, publisher and bibliographer, with an eye for capitalizing on scandal.
Continue reading »Sep 152024
- Dan Young is doing a Zoom talk BDSM: The History of a Secret Culture on September 29th, 2pm CDT. It will reference a lot of my own work as well as that of Stephen K Stein. Register at Forbidden Tickets.
- Etsy has joined the list of platforms that built their followings hosting BDSM/fetish/kink/queer content (e.g. Tumblr) and then banned it so they could attract investors.
- Slave Play. Not a Movie. A Play. is a 2024 documentary about the production and reception of Jeremy O. Harris’ Slave Play. Currently streaming on HBO and Crave.
- The Ukrainian city of Lviv not only has a statue dedicated to Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, author of Venus in Furs, it has a themed cafe and hotel in his name too. Cafe menu, hotel, tourist listing, merch
- More finds on Archive.org (you may need to register to read some of these):
- Vincent Andrews published Synopsis of Homosexual publications surrounding Old Guard, which includes scans of articles from Drummer magazine in the 1970s and 1980s.
- Michael Grumley’s book Hard Corps: Studies in Leather and Sado Masochism with photos by Ed Gallucci (Penguin, 1977), which provides a look at the pre-HIV leather scene.
- Gilles Deleuze’s 1989 book Masochism: Coldness and Cruelty, which takes a high-level, philosophical look at masochism and Sacher-Masoch’s work.
- Concertina: The Lives and Loves of a Dominatrix by Susan Winemaker, 2007.
Sep 152024
Elust is the only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month.
Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions, it’ll be here at Elust.
If you have a post included in Elust 177, please re-post the latest edition on your own blog, ideally with your own unique comments next to each link, or a paragraph for each category and/or write your own introduction.
For SEO purposes, non-identical re-posts of Elust are much better for search ranking, and it’s more appealing for readers.
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Sex Work
Gen West, When 3 Isn’t a Crowd
Oz Bigdownunder, Sipping the Princess of Pop’s Prosecco, A Duo with Isabella Love
Lexi Rose, She Wants to Slurp – Food to Make Your Cum Taste Better
Maîtresse Nuit, The Art of Balancing Desires
Sandra, LAM London Alternative Market New Venue
Kristina J, Living in the Shadows: The Unseen World of a Sex Worker
Princess Kaz, The Alchemy of Role Play and BDSM
Sex Worker Search, Privacy Policies of Sex Worker Directories
Hellga, BDSM Dungeon Hourly Rentals in London
Erotic Fiction
Jerusalem Mortimer, In the Realm of the Sensei – Prologue 2
Product Reviews
Morgan Destera, TOY TEST – Funzze Jeweled Vibrating Butt Plug
Liz X, Clear Pleasure – Funzze Glass Dildos Seductive Rotary Surprise
Of Sex and Love, Why Do I Keep Breaking Vibrators? (a review of the Febos Wand)
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Sapora Knight, Boundaries: Elevate Your Intimate Connections to New Heights
barefoot sub, Today Is Not A Typical Day
Tantric Sexual Healing, Sexuality as a Path to Meditation: A Tantric Perspective
O Miss Pearl, Scenes From a Femdom Marriage
Witch of the Wands, Date Ideas to Reignite the Spark in Your Relationship
Books and Movies
Schey Place Books, Erotic-Romance Book of the Year
Future of Sex, Long Live the New Flesh: The Cronenbergs’ Take on Tomorrow’s Sexuality Might Grow On—or In—You
The History of BDSM, Tokyo Decadence (1992): The Celluloid Dungeon
Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish
Femina Viva, The AI dominatrix training academy and why we will all be slaves
Sep 142024
The Libertine, also know as La Matriarca, is a 1968 film directed by Pasquale Festa Campanile and starring Catherine Spaak. IMDB
A wealthy man, Franco, suddenly dies and leaves everything to his young, beautiful wife, Margherita (aka Mimi). She finds that he had been seeing a string of mistresses, and sets out on a journey of sexual exploration.
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