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Nov 062025
In S01E05, “My Pet”, Molly continues seeing (and dominating) Neighbor Guy, and starts seeing Pet, a man into puppyplay, complete with costume and collar. However, she hasn’t told either of them about her cancer. She orders Neighbor Guy to finish himself off and goes into the bathroom to finish herself off with a vibrator.
Continue reading »Nov 032025
Nothing had prepared me. Some years back I had read The Story of O [sic], intrigued by the beginning, horrified after a few pages, repulsed long before the end. Sadomasochists in real life were black-leather freaks, amusing and silly in their ridiculous getups. If a friend, a peer, had told me she had herself tied to a table leg at home after a full day’s work at the office– well, it has never come up. God knows I would not have believed it. [Pg.54]
Nine and a Half Weeks by Ingeborg Day under the pseudonym Elizabeth McNeill, published 1978, is the semi-autobiographical account of her brief, obsessive, masochistic affair with an unnamed man. It was eventually adapted into the notorious Nine and a Half Weeks film in 1986, starring Kim Basinger and Mickey Rourke.
I had viewed and read about the film quite a bit before I read the short novel. It differs in several significant points. (For convenience, I will refer to the POV character as Elizabeth and her lover as John, though he is not named in the book.)
Continue reading »Oct 212025
Dying for Sex is a 2025 dramedy series about a woman, Molly, who is diagnosed with terminal cancer, and leaves her husband in search of sexual fulfillment.
In “Topping is a Sacred Skill”, the fourth episode of the first (and apparently only) season, Molly continues her exploration of her sexuality. In between episodes, she attended a BDSM play party and is intrigued by a dominant there known as G.
Continue reading »Oct 172025
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Oct 152025
- On October 18th, the Leather Archive and Museum in Chicago, IL is hosting a double bill of A Nightmare on Elm Street 2: Freddy’s Revenge (1985) and From Beyond (1986).
- Podcast You Must Remember This goes in-depth on Madonna’s erotic thriller Body of Evidence (1993), along with her SEX photography book and her Erotica album.
- Jack Fritscher wrote a bio of Cynthia Slater, one of the founders of the Society of Janus.
- Darby Valentine has a video on the extreme body modification underground and the man known as Eunuch Maker.
- From Archive.org:
- Captured Vol.1, Iss. 5 (1977) bondage magazine by House of Milan
- Secret magazine No. 5, Dec 1993
- Mach gay military magazine, Vol.3, No.7, 1984
- Slave Piercing magazine, Vol. 2, published 1986 by Spartacus
- The History of Flagellation: The Whip as an Instrument of Punishment, Torture, Self-Beatings, Religion and Erotic Stimulation, by Joseph McCabe, pub. 1946 by Haldeman-Julius
Oct 152025
Dying for Sex is a 2025 dramedy series about a woman, Molly, who is diagnosed with terminal cancer, and leaves her husband in search of sexual fulfillment.
In S01E03 “Feelings Can Become Amplified”, Molly starts taking a medication that gives her mood swings, while also struggling with vaginal dryness. She has a peculiar relationship with a man in her apartment building (aka “Neighbor Guy”): she’s disgusted by him, but she has a “mistake orgasm” by masturbating while she can hear him masturbating through their shared thin wall.
Continue reading »Oct 112025
I return to the long-running Masocast podcast for another interview.
Oct 062025
Pillion is a 2025 romance/drama, directed by Harry Lighton and starring Alexander Skarsgard and Harry Melling IMDB
A shy gay man meets a handsome biker and becomes his submissive.
[Spoilers ahead]
Collin is an out but shy and inexperienced gay man. After singing in a barbershop quartet in a pub on Christmas Eve, he sees Ray, a tall, handsome biker who might have stepped out of a Tom of Finland illustration. Later that night, Ray is joined by a group of other bikers, some of whom are submissive to others. Ray discretely orders Collin to perform a small act of service. Collin complies, and Ray slips him his number.
Continue reading »Sep 222025
- The podcast You Must Remember This does an in-depth study of the 1980s kinky romance (?) 9 1/2 Weeks. Its exploration of 1990s cable TV erotica series Red Shoe Diaries is also worth a listen.
- In another example of fashion appropriating fetish, Neon Coyotes is selling, or rather re-selling, chokers but calling them “day collars” and explicitly referencing BDSM in the promotional material. “We craft bespoke pieces that serve as instruments for personal expression, with an added touch of high fashion and a hint of kink.”
- From Archive.org:
- Trevor Jacques’ BDSM manual On the Safe Edge: A Manual for Safe SM Play (1994)
- Guido Crepax’s 1975 comics (bande-dessinee) adaptation of Histoire d’O.
- Jack Fritscher’s 1994 memoir of photographer Robert Mapplethorpe.
- Guy Baldwin’s collection of essays Ties that Bind (1993).
Sep 222025
Red Shoe Diaries S01E13 “How I Met My Husband”, Aired June 26, 1993 IMDB
“How I Met” starts off like a cross between a music video and a fashion show. Mistress Miranda’s dungeon is having an exhibition, with women and men in fetish gear strutting on a catwalk while a female announcer talks about the outfits and how much they cost. The frame is “dressing for power”. “Remember, leather, rubber and steel equals power and control.” It’s very aspirational and consumerist, locating kink in a fantastic world of wealth and glamour.
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