May 292018
Mar 052021
Josh’s coming-out to his father goes disastrously wrong, as his father, MJP, thinks this is actually about him being kinky, because that’s how he knows Pete.
MJP takes off his tie, undoes his shirt and reveals his padlocked collar.
MJP: “I’m kinky, Josh.[…] Kinky sub masochist, owned by my mistress, blissfully so. I’ve wanted to tell you for so long.”
Mar 042021
Penguin Guy returns. Pete, in his own penguin suit, puts his heart into his performance, waddling around the dungeon looking for his egg. There’s an improvisational give-and-take, as Penguin Guy finds Pete’s reference to global warming to be a “boner killer”, but Pete adjusts and carries on.
Tiff comes in (in regular clothes) and says using Mistress Mira’s dungeon isn’t allowed. Pete is being kind of a dick. Not only is he poaching clients from Tiff, he’s jeopardizing her future career as a domme by goofing off in class and using the dungeon to see clients without permission.
Mar 032021
Pete is late to a training session at the dungeon, and is told that May said to start without him. He later takes out his frustrations in his stand-up, using kink as a gimmick. The club’s manager tells Pete about how she never mentions her wife in her stage performance; the importance of boundaries.
Inside, Mira and Tiff are having a scene with a man in a full-body bondage bag and a gas mask for breath control. In between letting him breathe, they talk about Tiff’s past and future in the pro-domme business.
Mar 012021
Frank is a success at a gay bar, and Pete and Tiff are there as support.
Tiff: “It is so crazy to me how gay people just have bars where they go and they do whatever the fuck they want and nobody judges them.”
Pete: “Oh, it’s the most judgmental place in the world, but that’s the way we like it.”
Feb 252021
As Mistress Mira’s class proceeds, through ball gags, corsets, strapons, floggers, and straight jackets, the rift between Tiff the teacher’s pet and Pete the class clown grows.
Mira decides Tiff/May has come far enough to handle a scene with her personal submissive, a wealthy man known as MJP who is a masochist and finsub. Tiff explains financial submission to Pete and says “we” will take it.
Feb 242021
Most of the second episode is Tiff going back to school. She’s one of many women (of various ethnicities and body types) who are in Mistress Mira’s intensive course, though the other women give her the cold shoulder. Pete is the only man present, apparently on the grounds he is “Mistress May’s” assistant.
Mira enters and announces that she had to remove their links from the dungeon website, because of SESTA-FOSTA, much to their disappointment. (This suggests that all of these women are pro-dommes.)
Mira brings up puppy play as an example of a key concept in their work: ownership. She notices that Pete and Tiff are talking in class, and calls Tiff up to the front.
Feb 192021
As I watch Bonding, I’m torn between my impulse to say to Tiff and Pete and Bonding in general, “That’s not the way you do this!” and my recognition that, in reality, some people play fast and loose with BDSM’s supposedly sacred principles. Especially if they’re inexperienced and/or money is involved. Likewise, pro-domme work might be a calling for some, but for others it’s a way to pay the bills. My problem isn’t that the show is unrealistic, but that it is unflattering.
In Season 2, for the first time, Bonding breaks out of the narcissism of the Pete/Tiff dyad and shows there is a kinky community and what they do in it matters.
Feb 172021
Tiff, as Mistress May, is back in Daphne’s house. Daphne asks where “Carter” is and Tiff admits that she made a mistake with her partner.
Feb 162021
- I regret to say that Pat Bond, the founder of The Eulenspiegel Society in 1971, arguably the first modern kink organization, died on February 13th. RIP. Fifty years later, TES is still going.
- The Bad Books For Bad People podcast has an in-depth discussion of the 19th century Orientalist erotic novel The Lustful Turk.
- Another month, another celebrity sexually harasses women with their kinks, another necessary round of essays explaining that being kinky is not inherently non-consensual and consent violations are not necessarily vanilla. This time it’s actor Armie Hammer and his cannibal/vore fetishes. Both Evie Lupine and Morgan Thorne address the topic.
- Speaking of which, Pride Legal has a primer on BDSM and the law.
- Montecristo Magazine talks about the corset as a fashion item over the 20th and early 21st century.
- There’s a new non-fiction book coming Sadomasochism and the BDSM Community in the United States: Kinky People Unite, by history professor Stephen K. Stein.
Feb 162021
Pete wakes up next to Josh and has a good day until he goes to the dungeon and finds that Tiff is AWOL and he has to deal with her client, a grumpy guy in a penguin costume.
Pete tries to send him away, but Penguin Guy not only refuses to leave, he intimidates Pete into putting on another penguin costume and wrestling him.
