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Welcome to Elust 130
The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #131? Start with the rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!
~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~
Wedding night orgy: new, filthy traditions
~ Featured Posts by our Guest Editor Quinn Rhodes (ze/hir) ~
There’s a theme to the pieces I picked for my featured posts, and it’s that they both made me feel valid in my gender identity. I never expected coming out as trans to be easy, but being a vocal genderqueer sex blogger has really not been fun so far. Thank you to all the folks (including e[lust]!) who have stood with the trans and non-binary sex bloggers over the last month, and thank you to the amazing trans writers who inspire me to keep exploring my own gender – and talking about it!
#1 It’s all a bit pants by A to sub B (she/her/they/them)
“Tell me I’ve been a good girl and I’m going to be grinning but tell me I’ve been a good boi and fuuuuccckkk, I’ve melted into a puddle.”
I felt soooo seen by this post. Bee talks about their experience with gender and lace panties and feeling like we need to conform to gender stereotypes. It can be really hard and I’m sorry Bee is finding it all a bit pants, but I’m really glad they’re exploring their gender expression and presentation.
#2 Queer Names for Your Genitals
by Mx Nillin (they/them)
“One of the most essential parts of reclaiming autonomy over myself as a queer enby was taking back the language used to describe my body.”
As someone who has spent a LOT of time over the last few months thinking about what I want to call my junk, I loved this post. Nillin shares a bunch of words they’ve seen other trans and non binary folks use to refer to their genitals, and I’m now slightly tempted to refer to my dick as my “ominous parts”.
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!
Body Talk and Sexual Health
5 Things to Know About Erotic Modeling Online
Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor
Cougar Lane
All things being equal
Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish
The Two Sides of Shame in Kink and BDSM
Fantastical BDSM – BDSM: fantasy or reality
Silent Treatment
Erotic Fiction
I want you to fuck me in the arse
Sexual Service
Confession of Lust
Books and Movies
Four Weddings and Funeral
Law & Order Criminal Intent S09E11
Erotic Non Fiction
May 172020
“Escape from the Dungeon!”, aired September 26, 2010
Bored to Death is an American comedy TV series (IMDB) about Jonathan Ames, a struggling writer who moonlights as an “unlicensed private detective”.
In “Escape from the Dungeon!” (S02E01), Jonathan meets Drake, a mounted NYPD officer, who needs his name removed from the hard drive of the BDSM dungeon he frequents before it is raided by the police. He says the dungeon is involved in money laundering, not that it will be raided for sex work charges.
May 172020
- Tina Horn’s Why Are People Into That podcast has a two-part discussion of the erotics of fascism. Part 1, Part 2
- The Stuff to Blow Your Mind podcast has an episode on the original Hellraiser film and the short story it was based on, Clive Barker’s “The Hellbound Heart”. It includes a lot of discussion on the relationship of pleasure and pain.
- The Risk podcast has Mollena Lee Williams-Hass telling her story about her childhood influences of eroticized slavery and her development as an African-American woman in the kink world.
- DominaFiles.com profiles Belle Du Jour, arguably the foremost prodomme in NYC in the 1970s and 1980s. “Belle was introduced to B&D back in the late ’60s/early ’70s by a man she was seeing. She owned a cosmetology business at the time. Keeping that business running, she branched out into professional dominance and it wasn’t long before she was New York’s most successful SM entrepreneur.”
- One of the oldest cliches of “damsel in distress” bondage is the woman tied to the railway tracks before an onrushing train. Atlas Obscura probes into this and says it was actually very rare in the silent film rare. The earliest known instance was “an 1867 Victorian stage melodrama called Under The Gaslight,” in which a man is tied to the train tracks and saved by the leading lady. The evidence suggests that this trope was far more used as parody than in earnest.
- Flaunt has an interview with Rick Castro, a gay fetish and BDSM photographer from the 80s who also worked in mainstream fashion photography, where he brought in kink influences. “I would sneak it in, sneaking more each time until eventually I had Veronica Webb in full rubber – Versatile Fashions From Anaheim which did all the kink- from top to bottom.”
- Kink, like everything else, changes with changing technologies and changing conditions. Some sex workers have adapted to the 2020 coronavirus pandemic by moving online. One non-binary pro dominant uses the Nintendo Switch cute-animal game Animal Cross: New Horizons to connect with their clients. “Winter advertises their services through Twitter, and in the game they force clients to water their flowers and pay them bells, the Animal Crossing currency.”
- Astrid Ovalles, maker of the new lesbian BDSM drama Road of Bygones, writes in the Advocate of the poor depiction of kink in mainstream media. She completely dismisses Fifty Shades (“let us erase the Fifty Shades debacle from our tainted memories”) and asks for better representation. “Presently, there are few kinky shows that exist. Regrettably, they give in to representing kinksters as victims of abuse….”
- Race Bannon writes in the Bay Area Reporter on the tearing down of the once-rigid divides in the kink/queer world. “It seems to me that as each day passes we live in a greyer sex and eros world, less confined by entrenched black and white thinking.”
May 102020
Episode S01E08, “Denna”, aired January 10, 2009
Legend of the Seeker (IMDB) is a 2008 fantasy television series based on the Sword of Truth novel series by Terry Goodkind. It’s pretty boilerplate, hero’s journey, high fantasy.
Legend of the Seeker shares some production staff with the TV series Hercules: The Legendary Journeys and Xena: Warrior Princess, and the Spartacus TV series, which frequently hinted at or showed various forms of queer or kinky sexuality. In turn, those series are descendants of the sword-and-sorcery genre of fiction, which frequently referenced sadomasochistic sexuality. E.g. the covers of the 1930s pulp Weird Tales by Margaret Brundage.
Unlike most of the media we’ve explored so far, Legend is set in a fantasy world of magic and strange creatures. Therefore, we should hold it to different standards of realism and consent.
May 042020
Tales of Gor (Postmortem Studios, 2017) is the licensed tabletop role-playing game adaptation of John Norman’s notorious Gor series of sword-and-sorcery novels, written by James “Grim” Desborough and illustrated by Michael Manning. Gor is notorious for heavy themes of slavery, sadomasochism, male dominance and female submission, and for long philosophical digressions justifying those themes. Since 1966, there have been more than 30 novels published in the series. The series has inspired a strong cult following, including a small branch of BDSM culture devoted to Gorean style slavery, both in real life and online in Second Life.
Continue reading »Apr 272020
Law & Order: Criminal Intent’s episode “Lost Children of the Blood” aired July 25, 2010
A college student found drained of blood in her dorm room leads Detectives Nichols (Jeff Goldblum) and Stevens (Saffron Burrows) to the underground culture of blood fetishists.
The victim, Sarah Price, has quotes from Carl Jung and Michel Foucault all over her dorm room. Nichols finds a deluxe copy of Jung’s Red Book. “He [Jung] thought everybody should have a red book. All disturbing thoughts written down and filed away.”
Sarah’s boyfriend Kyle admits that they did go to a club together, and did blood play.
Kyle: “It was just exploring boundaries. Sarah and I wanted something real and authentic.”
Apr 262020
Welcome to Elust 129–
~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~
Unfortunately there will not be a top three judges selection this month. I did not feel that I would be seen as an impartial judge to make the selection. So I have decided to just post the full list. But have no fear, we will back to that next month with our judges in place. If you wish to apply to be an Elust judge you can do so here. If you would like to be a judge I would suggest you read this post on being Sex Positive first.
~ Featured Posts by our Guest Editor (It could be you) ~
Likewise there will not be a Guest Editor this month and if you want to be considered for the future send an email to questions@elustsexblogs.com
The will be no code to republish Eust this month. This will only be for this month.
Erotic Non-Fiction
Vivastreet Interview
Symptomatic: (self) love in the time of…
Putting it in Overdrive
Blogging
I’m still standing
The initiatives of #noEroticon
Erotic Fiction
When Lightning Comes From The East
Latex
Honour Bondage – Up Against The Wall
Pushing his face into her cunt
Fear Fuck
Forced to Orgasm
Tsk-Tsk
In the Realm of the Sensei
Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor
A Black Eye, A Kiss and a Punch in the Nose
What’s So Special About Unrequited Love?
Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish
24/7 D/s vs FLR: What’s the difference?
Honor Bound
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Curious and Dominance and submission?
Books and Movies
Apr 182020
House is an American TV medical procedural drama. “Love Hurts”, aired May 10, 2005, is the twentieth episode of the first season.
The episode begins with a man in the Emergency Room with what appears to be a stroke. The patient, Harvey (John Cho), also has nominal aphasia (difficulty naming things), as his friend Annette (Christina Cox) explains.
As Harvey has a metal plate in his jaw from an earlier injury, the doctors can’t do an MRI scan, and have to diagnose with other methods. They also notice oddities like how Harvey enjoys having needles inserted, and how Annette hovers around the patient. Finally, they find Annette in Harvey’s hospital room, apparently strangling him.
One of the doctors, Chase, explains that she is a dominatrix.
Apr 162020
Back in 2004, The L Word was a groundbreaking nighttime soap/drama series focusing on a group of lesbians living in Los Angeles. It was actually shot in Vancouver in early seasons.
The producers put out a call through the Vancouver BDSM community for extras and performers for a BDSM party scene in the season 2 finale, “Lacuna“. I signed up, not really expecting to get anywhere, and received the following as a script sample, or “side”.
L-Word-Lacuna-script-fragment-2004As we can see from the second page, the story reproduces the common belief that being into BDSM is a response to trauma.
I did my best in the audition, but it was my first attempt at acting since high school drama class. I didn’t get the part.
Others have told me that the scene was filmed, but not used. In the aired episode, IIRC, there’s a very brief insert of the party scene and a scene in which two characters tentatively go to a BDSM demo and immediately leave.
Apr 152020
- In the coronavirus crisis, the medical fetish site MedFetUK donated its supply of disposable medical scubs to a UK hospital. Its Twitter feed said, “When you see someone from the government saying the NHS [National Health Service] is getting what it needs, that is a LIE.”
- A photo essay on Istanbul’s BDSM community which continues to meet despite the pandemic.
- Many of the Decadent artists and writers of the late 19th century touched on sadomasochistic themes, such as Octave Mirbeau’s novel The Torture Garden. The 1889 lesbian novel Mephistophela by Catulle Mendes was only recently translated into English for the first time. The Bad Books for Bad People podcast explores this neglected work and what it says about late Victorian views of sexuality in general and lesbianism in particular, which includes scenes of torture and domination.
- In Teen Vogue, actress Emma Watson talks about her struggles with normative heterosexual partnering, and how she looks to other models, like BDSM. “I’ve also kind of become slightly fascinated by kink culture because they are the best communicators ever. They know all about consent.” Note her carefully hedged statement, with “kind of” and “slightly”. Still not a full-voiced endorsement of BDSM.
- Kerrang has a list of popular songs you didn’t know were about BDSM. (In some cases, it’s pretty obvious.)
- HonestErotica.com collects 19th and 20th century erotic art, mostly European, including kinky work such as Suzanne Ballivet’s 1954 illustrations for Venus in Furs, Eugène Klementieff’s 1937 illustrations for L’éducatrice passionnée, and Wighead’s 1934 illustrations for À genoux esclave.
