May 292018
 



Sep 192026
 

Welcome to Elust 201

Elust is the only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month.

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History of BDSM

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Product Reviews

Lushense, Penis Extenders: The Complete Guide to Types, Benefits and the Best Brands in 2026

Liz Black X, Is This The Ultimate Heavy Duty Sleeve? QUTOYS Hole-y Cow Masturbator Review

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Carrie Young, Spanking 101: A Beginner’s Guide to Spanking & Impact Play

Sex Toy DB, QUTOYS Dongkinger Replica Dildo Review: That’s a Lot of Dong

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Morgan Destera, Sex Toys – Anal Beads

Femina Viva, Musings on Life, Work, Hypocrisy and the Toxic Sisterhood

Books and Movies

The History of BDSM, Le jeu avec le feu (Playing with Fire)(1975): The Celluloid Dungeon

Sex Work

Hellga, Fingerbang

Sandra, My New PortaLite Massage Table

Sex Worker Search, Courtesan Finder Interview

Mx Valentina, The dominatrix as life coach

Milady, Atsuko Kudo Latex Catsuit

Teena Laurent, Six Hours with a Nerd

Yufi Saurus, Staying true to yourself even when you are a total weirdo

Lyra Bergman, What does “independent escort” mean? And why book independent escorts?

Sierra Sorren, The Lost Art of Lingering

Valerie Valtesse, On limerence & limoncello

Oz Bigdownunder, A Duo with Mistress Jessica and Mr and Mrs Habibi

Erotic Fiction

Simone Francis, Total Submission to the Riding Crop

Erotic Non Fiction

Raffaello Palandri, The Erotic Threshold: Tantra, Sapiosexuality, and the Intelligence of Almost

Sep 142026
 

I’ll be speaking on the History of BDSM, and selling books, in London, Paris and Berlin in the coming weeks.

September 16: London, UK

7pm-10pm

Presented by Anatomie Studio London

SE15 2JR, Southwark, Greater London, United Kingdom

Fetlife event

September 25: Paris, France

6:30pm – 8:30pm

Presented by Vous Monsieur

18 Rue du Vertbois, 3rd arrondissement of Paris, Paris, France

Fetlife event

October 1: Berlin, Germany

7:30pm – 9:30pm

Presented by IKSK

25 Holzmarktstraße, Berlin, Germany

Fetlife event

Sep 102026
 

Le jeu avec le feu (Playing with Fire) is a 1975 French comedy-drama, directed by Alain Robbe-Grillet.

A group of men are kidnapping young women all over Paris and holding them for ransom. They send a ransom note to a wealthy man, “the banker”, before before they kidnap his daughter, Carolina, which persuades the banker to hire a private detective to protect her. This detective is secretly one of the kidnappers, so he talks the banker into letting him take his daughter into hiding in a specialized clinic, which is actually a brothel. So, they’ve managed to kidnap a woman without her or her father knowing she’s been kidnapped. That’s just the beginning of the plot twists.

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Aug 222026
 

Welcome to Elust 200

Cover image courtesy of Domina Gea. Photography by L. Thomas.

Elust is the only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month.

Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice, or kinky discussions, it’ll be here at Elust.

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Erotic Non Fiction

Morgan Destera, So I Went to a Swingers’ Club…

Femina Viva, Realising the futility and necessity of putting ourselves in boxes

Books and Movies

The History of BDSM, I Want Your Sex (2026): The Celluloid Dungeon

Hellga, Book Review of “Money for Something” by Mia Walsch

Poetry

The Author Stew, Your Number

Product Reviews

Liz Black X, MYLO Earth Review: A Sculptural Piece That’s Surprisingly Versatile

Sex Toy DB, The Essential Hismith Upgrade Just Got Even Better: Lube Launcher 2.0 Review

Sex Work

Miss K Stinger, Double Mistress Judicial Caning Sessions London

Sex Worker Search, Why Can’t Escort Directories Age Verify via Third Party Double Blind ID check?

Oz Bigdownunder, A Duo with Mistress Charlotte. Sissy Virgin’s First Face Fuck

Milady, Exciting Duos Available: Meet Me & Mistress Jessica!

Sandra, Lick it Good

Courtesan Finder, FMTY: Fly Me To You Explained

Erotic Fiction

Schey Place Books, Weighing the odds: Fictional Exposure Explored

Ramone Quides, The Hairband

Simone Francis, The Contract – FemDom Story

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Tantric Sexual Healing, When the Brain Becomes Erotic: Tantra, Sapiosexuality, and the Body of Consciousness

Tom Rockets, Sex in the Shower: What Water Does to Your Lube

Buzz Vibes, 200 Ways to Keep Sex Interesting? No, Just One: Stay Curious

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Mx Valentina, The Architecture of Submission: A Case Study in PowerDyamics

Aug 172026
 
Aug 172026
 

I’ve only made a few edits to the manuscript since last month. Most of my energy has gone into researching the possibilities of self-publishing.

A Lover’s Pinch was published through the conventional process of finding an agent, submitting the manuscript to the agent, the agent submitting the manuscript to various publishers, and waiting for one of them to accept it. It did earn through its advance, which not all books do, and I still get a small amount of royalties from sales. However, I have some questions about the deal, and if I ever go through a publishing company again, I will do some things differently.

Conversations with other authors who write about similar topics make me wonder, however, if going through a publishing company is even the right path. The Celluloid Dungeon has a niche, controversial topic, and I might have more success promoting it than a publishing company. No matter how much (or little) effort a publisher puts into marketing a title, they still get their cut. Reviewing my royalties statement shows that the portion of total sales of paper copies that come from my direct, person-to-person sales keeps rising. In 2025, 25% of paper sales were through my own efforts.

However, self-publishing Celluloid Dungeon, in a way that meets my standards, will cost. Even if I do all the editing, copy-editing, proofreading, layout and cover design myself, I’d still want an index, and that costs thousands of dollars. I also want it to have a strong visual appeal, and that means paying licensing fees for photos, running at least a few hundred. I’m looking at four figures to do it right.

There’s also the problem of which companies to use. Amazon KDP is the 800 lb gorilla surrounded by 10 lb monkeys, at least in terms of ebooks and online sales. Getting it into brick & mortar stores means going through the IngramSpark system (even if you use another company) and they take their cut. But fighting for shelf-space in retail is no sure thing. There’s also direct sales companies to consider, if this title is best suited to that.

Aug 162026
 

Vikings (2013-21) is a historical drama TV series, broadly based on the life of legendary leader Ragnar Lothbrok. While I’m no expert on this particular period, the series plays pretty loose with history. E.g. the series began in season 1 with a story based on the Lindisfarne raid of 793, but one major plot arc of season 3 is based on the Viking siege of Paris in 845, and characters have only aged a few years.

For this blog’s purposes, we are concerned with a subplot of the siege of Paris arc. The leader of Paris’ defense against the Vikings is Count Odo (played by Owen Roe, loosely based on Odo of France), who chafes under the rule of Emperor Charles. Odo’s lieutenant Roland (Huw Parmenter) sends his sister, Therese (Karen Hassan), to seduce the count. So far, so typical for this kind of show.

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Aug 032026
 

The following contains spoilers for I want your sex (2026), starring Olivia Wilde and Cooper Hoffman, and directed by Gregg Araki.

Elliot Bell is an aimless, unemployed 20-something man. He gets a job as an assistant to an eccentric artist, Erika Tracey, which leads to him being her lover and her submissive.

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Jul 212026
 

Elust is the only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month.

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Books and Movies

O Miss Pearl, “The Everlasting” by Alix E. Harrow [Femdom Book Review]

History of BDSM, Killing Me Softly (2002): The Celluloid Dungeon

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

The BDSM Store, BDSM Punishment Generator

Hannah McKnight, I Want to be a Crossdresser

Sex & Relationships

Morgan Destera, And I Scream at the Top of My Lungs “What’s Going On?”

Tantric Sexual Healing, Erotic Intelligence: Can Sexual Practice Increase Wisdom?

Femina Viva, Are we all alone? Is life just one big futile exercise for connection?

Product Reviews

Buzz Vibes, Best Masturbators Australia (2026): Our Top Picks for Every Budget

Safe Lust, b-Vibe Rocker Prostate Plug Tested: Rocking the Spot

Liz X, Heavy-Duty Automation: A Review of the Honey Play Box Warrior Masturbator

Girly Juice, Velora Dune banana-shaped vibrator

Oz Bigdownunder, Orgasm Monster Pro 2 Review

Sex Work

Hellga, Fisty Cuffs

Charlotte Cheshire, Luxury Companionship for Every Body: Finding a Disability-Friendly Independent Escort

Mx Valentina, Bespoke Encounters

Ur Little Secret, PSE Meaning: What Is the Porn Star Experience with an Escort?

Sex Worker Search, Fairphone Sex Work Phone Update

Sandra, In Flight Entertainment

Teena Laurent, On Companionship Without Condition

Milady, What’s in My Kinky Tote Bag?

Mila Dall, Music, neuroscience and the link between sexuality and creativity