May 292018
Jun 272026
Killing Me Softly is a 2002 erotic thriller directed by Chen Kaige and starring Heather Graham and Joseph Fiennes.
Alice (Graham) lives in London with her sweet but dull boyfriend. After a chance sexual encounter with a mysterious man (Fiennes), she tracks him down and learns he is Adam Tallis, a famous mountaineer who saved the lives of six people in an accident that killed many others. Alice leaves her boyfriend and starts a relationship with Adam.
Killing seems like an experiment in how many red flags a man can have and still be attractive. Adam is brooding, mercurial, controlling and haunted by the accident, in which the woman he loved died. When Alice is mugged on the street, Adam doesn’t just chase the assailant down, he brutally beats him, then immediately proposes marriage to Alice.
Continue reading »Jun 182026
- Kenney Jones’ essay “Kristi Noem’s Sex Life, Conservative Swingers, and the ‘Real Sin’ of Visibility” probes the paradoxes of conservative American sexuality, such as why swinger clubs are most common in the most repressive states. Conservatives expect people to fall short of their heteronormative, monogamous and vanilla ideals; what they can’t forgive is people questioning those ideals.
- The Chicago Reader profiles the Leather Archive & Museum.
- Interview from 2017 with indie video game developer Robert Yang, creator of Hurt Me Plenty.
- Podcasts:
- Behind the Bastards tells the story of the One Touch “orgasm cult”, which is what happens when a pyramid scheme/cult gets a hold of sex positivity. Part 1
- Authentically Kinky interviews Isabella Sinclair, a pioneer in online streaming and the woman behind the Ivy Mansion and Gwen Media video series.
- From Archive.org:
- Centurion gay BDSM magazine, No.41 (1992)
- An archive of SandMutopian Magazine, No. 18 (1995) – No. 39 (last issue)
- Mel Gordon’s book Voluptuous Panic; The Erotic World Of Weimar Berlin (2000)
Jun 032026
Peter and TammyJo discuss Pillion (2025) in their new video.
May 192026
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Sex Toy DB, Cowgirl Unicorn Review: The Ride-On Sex Machine Is Everything I Hoped For
Books and Movies
History of BDSM, Dominatrixes in video games: The Celluloid Dungeon
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Cuckold Stories, [43M] Locked in lace : I am now a sissy cuck to my wife
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May 192026
- Xtra Magazine covers the history of the pro-BDSM lesbian magazine On Our Backs.
- LGBTQNation profiles the forthcoming book on BDSM and spirituality by Dr. Melissa Wilcox, Devotions: Spirituality and Religion in LGBTQ Leather and BDSM Communities.
- Many key figures of the “bizarre underground” of the mid-20th century are still largely unknown. Richard Perez Seves has pulled together as much research as possible about Leonard Burtman, kink magazine publisher and film producer.
- Consensual Torture Simulator is a text-only video game published by Merritt Kopas in 2013, in which the player is urged by their lover to make them cry.
- Podcasts:
- The eroticization of breasts is so widespread that it’s hard to think of it as a “fetish”, but that wasn’t always the case. The Sex and Psychology Podcast covers the historical evolution of the kink so ubiquitous it seems normal.
- From Archive.org:
- Nick Broomfield’s documentary Fetishes (1996)
- Documentary Sick: The Life and Death of Bob Flanagan, Supermasochist (1997)
- Lesbian BDSM magazine Venus Infers Vol.2 No.1 (1994)
- Librivox free audiobook of Venus in Furs (In English; not sure which translation)
- Lynda Hart’s Between the Body and the Flesh: Performing Sadomasochism (1998)
May 192026
“The Gang Gets Satirized and Doesn’t Like It” is S04E04 of the legal comedy-drama TV series The Good Fight, aired May 7, 2020.
One of the law firm’s clients is upset because he believes he is being caricatured in a popular play, C*cksucker in Chains. He says he wants them to “gawker” it, which basically means “Somebody’s talking about me in a way I don’t like, and I’m rich enough to shut them up.”
The play was written by a former employee of the law firm, and the characters and relationships do bear a carnivalesque likeness. Diane Lockhart (Christine Baranski), the series’ lead, is caricatured as a lawyer who rips off her business suit to reveal a dominatrix outfit beneath. The caricature of Diane’s boss, a black man, rips off his business suit to reveal an antebellum slave costume, and is rapturously dominated by the lawyer-dominatrix, including bullwhipping and anal penetration with a dildo (off camera).
Continue reading »Apr 212026
- Last month I posted the wrong URL for the Canadian documentary series KINK (2001). You can get the entire series here.
- Back in 2005, Valerie Steele, author of Fetish and The Corset, gave a talk at Cornell about fetish fashion history.
- RUSSH magazine in 2021 writes about the history of the intersection between fashion and fetish/BDSM. “But when mainstream fashion adopts culturally significant optics from those whose identities sit in the marginal rings of society in the hope to capitalise on a subversive trend, what does it mean for the communities who pioneered the kink movement in the first place?”
- Grailed provides a short history of the meeting of BDSM and high fashion
- So.gay highlights fashion designers who have been inspired by (taken from?) the kink subculture.
- From Archive.org:
- A number of issues of lesbian BDSM magazine Bad Attitude.
- A number of issues of lesbian sex magazine On Our Backs.
- Bondage Life 82 (2001)
- The Sexual Fetish in Today’s Society, by Hugh Jones (1965)
Apr 212026
Researching kink in the relatively new medium of video games introduced me to the surprisingly complex history of dominatrix-coded female characters.
Continue reading »Apr 172026
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Body Talk and Sexual Health
Fruity Cams, How to jerk off longer
State of the World
Fapspins, Are Webcam Sites Safe? Privacy, Tracking & Security Explained
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Tantric Sexual Healing, Tantric Temporality and the Ecology of Desire: How Ritual Transforms Time, Pleasure, and Attentional Economy
Product Reviews
Oz Bigdownunder, I’ll Let You Lick My Lollypop. Funzze Candy Cane Vibrator
Liz X, Tabletop Review: The simplyjoy 10-Inch Dual Density Dildo
Spices of Lust, VVD Rider Desire Review
Sex Work
Evie + Axel, Anxiety around sexual performance
Mistress Sophie, How Best To Approach A Pro-Domme, (Some Helpful Do’s And Don’t’s)
Sex Worker Search, Clients. Are you more like A? Or B?
Sandra, “Will abuse u and leave marks but make sure u enjoy!”
Mx Valentina, Maid Fantasy. With a Twist.
Vivienne Parker, Swingers Club
Milady, Rendezvous in Paris with a Butt Plug
Hellga, Bunkhaus Dungeon Femdom Session
Books and Movies
O Miss Pearl, “What Fury Brings” by Tricia Levenseller [Femdom Book Review]
The History of BDSM, Box Hill (2020) by Adam Mars-Jones
Apr 132026
Box Hill, subtitled A Story of Low Self-Esteem, is a 2020 novella by Adam Mars-Jones, which was adapted into the film Pillion (2025). An awkward young gay man becomes the live-in submissive of a charismatic biker.
This essay includes spoilers for Box Hill and Pillion.
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