Apr 182025
 

Elust is the only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month.

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Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Tantric Sexual Healing, The Everyday Ecstasy: Bringing Tantra into Your Daily Routine

Erotic Fiction

Simone Francis, Painted Stripes

Schey Place Books, Zero

Jerusalem Mortimer, In the Realm of the Sensei – Prologue 10

Jasmine Gold, Learning to Obey: Her Fantasy Denial

Product Reviews

Morgan Destera, Funzze 3-in-1 Sucking Flapping Vibrator

Man at Jerk, Fantasy Grove Amanita dildo review

Sydney Screams, Uncover Creations Equiknot Dildo Review

Miss Ruby Reviews, We-Vibe Wand 2

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Kim Rub, Ectomorph Latex Design 40 Year Anniversary

Sex Work

Kristina J, Thank You Sex Work 

Fox Digital, Your Opinion of Your Website Doesn’t Matter—Here’s What Does

Sex Worker Search, Sex Worker Resources (mostly U.S.)

Hellga, A Duo with Christine Love at Blue Door Dungeon

Sandra, Bound, Gagged and Throat-Fucked

Oz Bigdownunder, Sweet Cherry Pie. Custom Made Video Clips

State of the World

The Sex Shed, We asked 1000 people: How do you do it? (survey on masturbation habits)

Femina Viva, Is it time to start outing trans people?

Blogging

Liz X, Diving into Digital Desire – Exploring Nomi AI and its AI Companions

Ramone Quides, Surviving Two Changes of Seasons

Erotic Non Fiction

barefoot sub, Chase The Rainbow – Beautiful Marks

Mx Valentina, The Tantric connection to chastity and orgasm denial

Writing about writing

Ambyr Leigh, On Writing Anal Sex Scenes

Books and Movies

History of BDSM, The Idiots (1998): The Celluloid Dungeon

Apr 022025
 

Youtuber Matt Bernstein speaks with Moira Donegan and Adrian Daub (of the podcast In Bed With The Right) about “The Incoherent Sexual Politics of the Right”. The right wing/conservative resurgence we’ve seen over the past decade or so swings widely from the puritan to the libertarian in sexual matters. There’s a desperate scramble to seize the sexual high ground, to present themselves as the side of beauty and pleasure, and denigrate the sex of queer people and feminists as ugly and boring.

In particular, the conversation follows the trajectory of the “tradwife” image, epitomized by the “raw milkmaid dress”. They describe how the tradwife went from the epitome of conservative female modesty and domesticity to a sexualized fetish outfit over the span of only a year or two. Classically Abby, one of the best known advocates of tradwifism, shut down her Youtube channel late last year, because of the raunchy side of her supposed supporters.

There’s a long-standing precedent of female clothing that is supposed to de-sexualize the wearer becoming sexualized and fetishized; e.g. the French maid cliche. That a fetishized version of the tradwife image would appear so quickly is hardly surprising.

It represents the internal rift in the conservative movent, between the puritan and libertine wings. The image of the tradwife in Evie magazine, as modest yet seductive, sexually adventurous yet strictly hetero and monogamous, proved untenable. They couldn’t reconcile that dialectic.

Puritans and libertines have one thing in common: they both believe they should have control over other people’s bodies. In Margaret Atwood’s dystopian The Handmaid’s Tale, the patriarchal, theocratic fascists of Gilead subdivide women into specialized groups, each with their own sartorial code: handmaids in red for reproduction, wives in blue for running households, aunts in brown to manage handmaids, marthas in green for housework, and jezebels in fetish costumes from the old “decadent” days. They’re all different parts of the same system.

Jan 172025
 

Elust is the only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month.

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Fern River Cub, Come-In (Part 2)

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Simone Francis, Fetish Secretary

Ambyr Leigh, My Terrible Date Fucked Me Bareback In The Backseat Of His Car

Schey Place Books, The Story So Far

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Natalie Hepburn, Surviving a Dead Bedroom

Tantric Sexual Healing, Tantric Erotism and the Transcendence of the Ego

Blogging

Miss Ruby Reviews, A Decade in the Sex Toy Industry

Erotic Non Fiction

Modesty Ablaze, Modest 50 Sexy Questions – 6 to 10

Awakening Your Inner Essence, The alchemy of surrender and activation

Product Reviews

Morgan Destera, TOY TEST – Twisted Beast Marchosias

Oh Joy Sex Toy, The Uberrime Fantasy by Hien Pham

Sydney Screams, FemmeFunn Klio Vibrator Review

Liz X, Beyond Ordinary Stimulation – Kiiroo ProWand with App Streaming

Lushense, Introducing the Viballdo – The World’s 1st Vibrating Ball Dildo

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Cara Sutra, How A Woman Gets Pleasure From Pegging Men & Strap-On Sex

Sex Work

Lady Ava Sheridon, The Application Process; and why yours might be unsuccessful

Kristina J, Authenticity and Connection: The Art of Being Real in Sex Work

Princess Kaz, Dommes – Carving Out You-Time

Miss Kim Rub, Leather Fetishist Domme

Sex Worker Search, Are Sex Workers Welcome on Bluesky?

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humour

History of BDSM, “People Who Like Kinky Sex Are Just Bad In Bed”: Evie Magazine and the Raw Milkmaid Dress

Jan 012025
 

The sexual dynamics of the American conservative resurgence have been fascinating over the last few years.

Evie Magazine is a conservative women’s magazine first published in 2019. Its aesthetics and content reflect the “trad life/trad wife” movement, creating a pastoral fantasy of rural, agrarian labour combined with an idealized hetero-nuclear family. At the fringier end of things, Evie’s content splices into ideologies like pronatalism, anti-vaccination, the benefits of “raw milk” and other health quackery, transphobia, anti-feminism, COVID denial, QAnon, etc.

It’s epitomized by the “tradwife” image, a (white) long-haired woman in a white or print dress, hair kerchief, and cowboy boots who has had borne and raised several children while running a country farm and baking her own bread daily, and yet somehow still looks like a fashion model. She does no paid labour outside the home, instead leaving that to her commuting (white) husband.

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Dec 062024
 

Strub, Whitney. 2011. Perversion for Profit : The Politics of Pornography and the Rise of the New Right. New York: Columbia University Press. Amazon

I’ve been reading Whitney Strub’s book, and despite its age, it is still very relevant in explaining the culture war over pornography in American politics. One of the things he details is though American history is littered with censorious firebrands like Anthony Comstock, those moral crusaders frequently stumbled over the problem that the majority of Americans don’t care very much about pornography as an issue. Men like Comstock and Charles Keating of Citizens for Decent Literature could mobilize a small, but vocal minority.

As Strub tells it, when the neoconservatives and the New Right rose to cultural power in the 1970s, they had to reconcile their belief in small government, free markets, and libertarianism with more culturally conservative allies, particularly evangelical Christians.

Thought it sought a socially conservative, generally religious voting base, the New Right was heavily corporate-sponsored, and such groups as the Committee for Survival of a Free Congress recognized the value of neocon thought in legitimizing their project of deregulating American markets even as they reregulated American morality.[Pg.190]

We’ve seen this strange-bedfellows alliance ever since, creating people who believe the Invisible Hand should rule everywhere except areas like pornography, abortion, and queer issues.

In 1979 the New Right organizer Paul Weyrich had come dangerously close to admitting the movement’s emphasis on social issues was a shallow commitment designed to garner evangelical votes while obscuring the substantive procorporate agenda of New Right politicians: “Yes, they’re emotional issues, but that’s better than talking about capital formation,” he said. Certainly the corporate benefactors of the New Right’s organizational superstructure valued profits over ideology; Coors, for instance, was headed by a reactionary zealot whose donations largely funded the important Heritage Foundation. But when the company recognized the consumer power of the gay market in 1979, it unhesitatingly ran ads in the gay paper the Advocate. [Pg.191-192]

More than 40 years later, we still see the same dynamic, even if the names have changed: trans people instead of gay people, puberty blockers instead of abortion, “cultural Marxism” instead of “the permissive society”. The 2023 brouhaha over trans streamer Dylan Mulvaney endorsing Bud Light suggests that the free-marketers sometimes back down when challenged by the cultural conservatives. Donald Trump himself embodies this contradictory political alliance: a man with multiple wives and a history of sexual indiscretions, who has been on the cover of Playboy magazine, can somehow be favored by the Christian right and even more reactionary forces. Grifters and quacks like Matt Walsh, Ben Shapiro, and Jordan Peterson constantly stoke culture wars over issues of sexuality and gender, anything to drown out considerations of economic policy from the discourse.

I’ve said it before, and I hope I’m wrong, but I still think it’s only a matter of time before BDSM takes the place of trans in this particular social-political complex.

Nov 152024
 

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Pleasure Me Now, Virtual Vibrations: Bringing LDR Bliss With Blowjob Machines

Tantric Sexual Healing, Awakening Intimacy: A Tantric Journey to Sacred Sensuality

Erotic Fiction

Fern River Cub, Luc listens in

Lexi Rose, The Message: A Short Erotic Story – Part 1

Modesty Ablaze, “A Naughty Surprise” Part 4 of my Hotwife Diaries Audio Reading

Product Reviews

Sydney Screams, The Bivius Alien Dildo by Uberrime

Morgan Destera, TOY TEST – Funzze Black Fantasy Dildo

Liz X, Kiiroo Pearl 3 Vibrator Review: Remote Play & Video Sync Make It Unstoppable

Sex Toy DB, The Top 5 Squirting Dildos in 2024 to Simulate Ejaculation

Of Sex and Love, Heidi

Erotic Non Fiction

Awakening Your Inner Essence, A Tantric Perspective on Reclaiming Our Inner Worth

Kristina J, Humiliation To Liberation: A Dance Of Desire – 10 Years Of Submission

barefoot sub, Dancing In The Dark

Femina Viva, Managing the “feels” when visiting a companion

Sex Work

Carman Fox, Master Escort Communication

Thornhill Digital, The Future of Labour Rights Within Online Sex Work

Elizabeth, Torture Goddess

Sex Worker Search, Sex Worker Blogs via RSS Feed

Oz Bigdownunder, Oz in Dubai. Australian Halal Sausage is Back on the Menu

Books and Movies

The History of BDSM, The People’s Porn: A History of Handmade Pornography in America, by Lisa Z. Sigel

Writing about writing

Ramone Quides, When One Door Closes, Meditation Begins

Oct 262024
 

Sigel, Lisa Z. 2020. The People’s Porn : A History of Handmade Pornography in America. London: Reaktion Books. Amazon

In the early 21st century, we think of pornography as a ubiquitous, mass-produced, and corporatized phenomenon. Sites like PornHub present the viewer with vast quantities, individually tagged according to theme and sexual act. Advances in video production and distribution technology means almost anybody can make and consume sexual content with a high degree of technical quality and specificity.

Sigel’s book explores an entire history of what might be called “craft” or “artisanal” erotica, produced in single items or small sets, and using a wide variety of media, from carved whalebone to modified mass-produced photos to handmade garments. Many of the items discussed in the book aren’t “erotica” in the usual sense, i.e. items intended to arouse the viewer, perhaps as an aid to masturbation. These artifacts, such as a carved wooden figure of Abraham Lincoln with an erection, might more accurately be described as “adult novelties”.

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Oct 042024
 

“Sado Machismo” is an essay written by Edmund White and published in New Times, 8 January 1979, reprinted in the collection The Burning Library (Knopf, 1994)

White wrote this at a very different time: Not even ten years after Stonewall, before Cruising and definitely before HIV. The collection notes this essay was “… published during the height of Anita Bryant’s anti-homosexual campaign in Florida and in the midst of the Briggs Amendment campaign in California.” Gays and lesbians fighting for their rights to work as teachers were in the news, but a certain kind of “queer chic” was in the air too.

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Sep 272024
 

Storr, Merl. 2003. Latex and Lingerie : Shopping for Pleasure at Ann Summers. Oxford: Berg. Amazon

Ann Summers is a UK brand of lingerie and sex toys, sold by brick-and-mortar stores, by online retailing and by a system of “Ann Summers parties”, in which saleswomen organize parties and directly market goods to the (all female) attendees. These goods include lingerie, sex toys, and related items. In particular, they sell bondage cuffs, light impact implements and other BDSM equipment. The Ann Summers parties are a point where “the rubber meets the road”, where people (i.e. hetero, vanilla women) have their first direct contact with BDSM toys, and the concept of BDSM play in general. Merl Storr’s book, based on interviews with party hosts and participant observation, presents valuable insights into how vanilla/hetero identities can change to accommodate the purchase of BDSM gear, if not the actual use of such.

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