Aug 202020
 

Welcome toElust 133-

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Shitty Dating Advice Marketing I’m Sick Of

Birthday nude: Is this what you want?

This One Was Just Right: A Goldilocks Story

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #134? Start with the rules, come back September 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ Featured Posts by our Guest Editor ~

Little Switch Bitch

Bitch in heat

Molly’s words make me ache. I ache because I know how heartfelt her words are. She means every single one but equally, I feel the emotions. I understand that need. In fact, it’s not far from how I feel right now!

Aftercare

Lilly writes with such an honesty in her words.. It’s almost as if I am reading a diary log of her thoughts. Her post has made me wonder about my own aftercare and how I react. Fab thought provoking post.

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Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Tuned in and Turned on, 24/7

Blogging

Self-Doubt – The bitch that tries to quieten

Erotic Non-Fiction

French Maid
Help wanted!

Erotic Fiction

Sex We Never Had, Places We N
Wicked Wednesday: In the Realm of the Sensei

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

July

Books and Movies

Eurotrip (2004): The Celluloid Dungeon

Body Talk and Sexual Health

Self doubt and how it impacts me

Aug 112020
 

Bones S01E08 “The Girl in the Fridge”, aired November 29, 2005 IMDB

Bones is another forensic investigation procedural TV series. 

The case begins with the discovery of a decayed skeleton in an abandoned refrigerator. The forensic anthropologists determine that the deceased is a missing young woman, Maggie Schilling, who was held for ransom, but then the kidnappers broke off communication. She also had a condition that made her bones brittle, particularly stress fractures in her wrists.

The series’ protagonist, Dr. Temperance Brennan, says:

“She did fight, Michael. They kept her tied up like an animal. But she fought. That’s how she got those stress fractures, because she was bound and struggling.”

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Jul 212020
 

Welcome toElust 132-

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Bisexuality, Shame and The Kiss That Never Wa

Can I touch you like that?

I’m Not A Very Good Masturbator

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #133? Start with the rules, come back August 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ Featured Posts by our Guest Editor ~

Lillith Avir

Sex is great, but…
Free from Section 28

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Books and Movies

Body of Evidence (1992)

Erotic Non-Fiction

Sissy Facefuck
Sextreme Sport – The Ride
Your best teacher is your last mistake

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

What happens in Vegas…
The everyday misogyny you don’t see
Green Eyed Monster

Erotic Fiction

A Second Call
Following Instructions

Thoughts and Advice on Kink & Fetish

Moose Hide

Jun 192020
 

Welcome to Elust 131

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #132? Start with the rules, come back July 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Are ‘introvert Dommes’ a thing?

Can I have anal sex with vaginismus?

Listing Me

~ Featured Posts by our Guest Editor Service Slut

Give me rubs.

Memories are timeless treasures

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Books and Movies

Anne Rice’s Beauty books on Kinkstarter
The L Word S02E11: The Celluloid dungeon

Erotic Fiction

On Call Stud, Part II
A Close Shave >

Body Talk and Sexual Health

It’s Hard to Feel Sexy with SAD
Early In My Coming Out

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

The Spreadsheet

Erotic Non-Fiction

Abyss

Jun 152020
 

Gates, Katharine. 2000. Deviant desires: incredibly strange sex. New York: Juno Books.

Gates’s book is an exploration of a particular phase in Western sexual history. This is the pre-Google, pre-Facebook, pre-Fetlife Internet, when finding people who shared your kink was more a matter of luck and word-of-mouth than just typing something into a search bar. The people Gates interviews are an assortment of eccentrics who put their kinks out in early Internet forums, self-published newsletters, magazines and videos. Most of these media channels are hobbies and labours of love; a few attain the level of cottage industries that might break even some day. Some might even be seen as a kind of outsider art, fascinating precisely because of their lack of commercial slickness.

The why of fetishes has puzzled sexologists and psychologists since the concept was developed. Is there some deeper symbolic meaning to a fetish, or is it just a matter of a person randomly imprinting on a particular stimulus? Gates’ approach is primarily anthropological, not psychological, but she still tries to decode some fetishes.

People like to say that there are no new kinks under the sun, but the balloon fetish proves them wrong. Every era seems to have a fetish that is uniquely their own, and there’s something so post-modern/pop culture/McDonaldsTM/VH1 about balloons that the idea of eroticizing them feels particularly contemporary. […] It makes sense that the balloon fetish is such a new thing; after all, rubber latex toy balloons were not even invented until the 1920s, and have only been a routine part of the American suburban home since the 1950s. And although there exist looners as old as 70 years of age, most balloon fetishists are in their twenties and thirties. It’s really a baby-boomer and Gen-X phenomenon.

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Many of the fetishists interviewed cite some childhood experience as the moment of recognition of their kink, such as seeing something in a seemingly innocuous film or TV show. E.g. the scene in the 1971 Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory in which a girl blows up into a sphere is well known to body inflation fetishists. However, most don’t see those moments as causing their kinks.

The first time Inflate 123 say the film at the age of five he cried inconsolably. […] By the third time that he saw it he just shut up, stared, and kept his fascination to himself. “It was the first external ‘proof’ of the concepts that were already swimming around in my head.”

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A giantess fetishist has a similar belief, that such moments only catalyze or activate something that already existed in the person.

Ed [Lundt] doesn’t think that seeing growth stories in his childhood caused him to be a giantessophile, however. “I think that somewhere in the soup of one’s subconscious all these elements are floating around and the trigger just acts like a magnet drawing iron filings together. I starts to form a thing, and as you get older you see Village of the Giants, and it forms even more. When you hit puberty, you add on the sexual aspect and then it becomes the sex fantasy.” Ed feels that people become macros because of a combination of genetics and circumstances.

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Twenty years later, it’s clear that Gates was definitely thinking ahead.

The sexual conversation is changing, and it’s changing rapidly. With the desktop publishing revolution and the advent of the internet, millions of people have suddenly gained access to previously unavailable information about non-conformist sex. New erotic communities are forming every day. Deviants with the most obscure and specific kinks — who always thought they were alone in the world — can now communicate with likeminded poeple.

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Today on Internet porn sites like Clips4Sale, you will find media catering to a mind-boggling variety of hyper-specific fetishes. Nonetheless, it is interesting to look back at this era, when the sexual frontier was charted and settled by people following their bliss, not bent on making money by exploiting a niche fetish.

May 282020
 

Welcome to Elust 130

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #131? Start with the rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Communion

Wedding night orgy: new, filthy traditions

Body Love: Q is for Queefing

~ Featured Posts by our Guest Editor Quinn Rhodes (ze/hir) ~

There’s a theme to the pieces I picked for my featured posts, and it’s that they both made me feel valid in my gender identity. I never expected coming out as trans to be easy, but being a vocal genderqueer sex blogger has really not been fun so far. Thank you to all the folks (including e[lust]!) who have stood with the trans and non-binary sex bloggers over the last month, and thank you to the amazing trans writers who inspire me to keep exploring my own gender – and talking about it!

#1 It’s all a bit pants by A to sub B (she/her/they/them)

“Tell me I’ve been a good girl and I’m going to be grinning but tell me I’ve been a good boi and fuuuuccckkk, I’ve melted into a puddle.”

I felt soooo seen by this post. Bee talks about their experience with gender and lace panties and feeling like we need to conform to gender stereotypes. It can be really hard and I’m sorry Bee is finding it all a bit pants, but I’m really glad they’re exploring their gender expression and presentation. 

#2 Queer Names for Your Genitals
by Mx Nillin (they/them)

“One of the most essential parts of reclaiming autonomy over myself as a queer enby was taking back the language used to describe my body.”

As someone who has spent a LOT of time over the last few months thinking about what I want to call my junk, I loved this post. Nillin shares a bunch of words they’ve seen other trans and non binary folks use to refer to their genitals, and I’m now slightly tempted to refer to my dick as my “ominous parts”.

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Body Talk and Sexual Health

5 Things to Know About Erotic Modeling Online

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Cougar Lane
All things being equal

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

The Two Sides of Shame in Kink and BDSM
Fantastical BDSM – BDSM: fantasy or reality
Silent Treatment

Erotic Fiction

I want you to fuck me in the arse
Sexual Service
Confession of Lust

Books and Movies

Four Weddings and Funeral
Law & Order Criminal Intent S09E11

Erotic Non Fiction

Love is a banquet on which we feed

May 042020
 
Cover illustration by Michael Manning

Tales of Gor (Postmortem Studios, 2017) is the licensed tabletop role-playing game adaptation of John Norman’s notorious Gor series of sword-and-sorcery novels, written by James “Grim” Desborough and illustrated by Michael Manning. Gor is notorious for heavy themes of slavery, sadomasochism, male dominance and female submission, and for long philosophical digressions justifying those themes. Since 1966, there have been more than 30 novels published in the series. The series has inspired a strong cult following, including a small branch of BDSM culture devoted to Gorean style slavery, both in real life and online in Second Life.

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Apr 262020
 

Welcome to Elust 129–

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Unfortunately there will not be a top three judges selection this month. I did not feel that I would be seen as an impartial judge to make the selection. So I have decided to just post the full list. But have no fear, we will back to that next month with our judges in place. If you wish to apply to be an Elust judge you can do so here. If you would like to be a judge I would suggest you read this post on being Sex Positive first.

~ Featured Posts by our Guest Editor (It could be you) ~

Likewise there will not be a Guest Editor this month and if you want to be considered for the future send an email to questions@elustsexblogs.com

The will be no code to republish Eust this month. This will only be for this month.

Erotic Non-Fiction

Vivastreet Interview
Symptomatic: (self) love in the time of…
Putting it in Overdrive

Blogging

I’m still standing
The initiatives of #noEroticon

Erotic Fiction

When Lightning Comes From The East
Latex
Honour Bondage – Up Against The Wall
Pushing his face into her cunt
Fear Fuck
Forced to Orgasm
Tsk-Tsk
In the Realm of the Sensei

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

A Black Eye, A Kiss and a Punch in the Nose
What’s So Special About Unrequited Love?

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

24/7 D/s vs FLR: What’s the difference?
Honor Bound

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Curious and Dominance and submission?

Books and Movies

Romance (1999): The Celluloid Dungeon