May 282020
 

Welcome to Elust 130

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Communion

Wedding night orgy: new, filthy traditions

Body Love: Q is for Queefing

~ Featured Posts by our Guest Editor Quinn Rhodes (ze/hir) ~

There’s a theme to the pieces I picked for my featured posts, and it’s that they both made me feel valid in my gender identity. I never expected coming out as trans to be easy, but being a vocal genderqueer sex blogger has really not been fun so far. Thank you to all the folks (including e[lust]!) who have stood with the trans and non-binary sex bloggers over the last month, and thank you to the amazing trans writers who inspire me to keep exploring my own gender – and talking about it!

#1 It’s all a bit pants by A to sub B (she/her/they/them)

“Tell me I’ve been a good girl and I’m going to be grinning but tell me I’ve been a good boi and fuuuuccckkk, I’ve melted into a puddle.”

I felt soooo seen by this post. Bee talks about their experience with gender and lace panties and feeling like we need to conform to gender stereotypes. It can be really hard and I’m sorry Bee is finding it all a bit pants, but I’m really glad they’re exploring their gender expression and presentation. 

#2 Queer Names for Your Genitals
by Mx Nillin (they/them)

“One of the most essential parts of reclaiming autonomy over myself as a queer enby was taking back the language used to describe my body.”

As someone who has spent a LOT of time over the last few months thinking about what I want to call my junk, I loved this post. Nillin shares a bunch of words they’ve seen other trans and non binary folks use to refer to their genitals, and I’m now slightly tempted to refer to my dick as my “ominous parts”.

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Body Talk and Sexual Health

5 Things to Know About Erotic Modeling Online

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Cougar Lane
All things being equal

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

The Two Sides of Shame in Kink and BDSM
Fantastical BDSM – BDSM: fantasy or reality
Silent Treatment

Erotic Fiction

I want you to fuck me in the arse
Sexual Service
Confession of Lust

Books and Movies

Four Weddings and Funeral
Law & Order Criminal Intent S09E11

Erotic Non Fiction

Love is a banquet on which we feed

May 042020
 
Cover illustration by Michael Manning

Tales of Gor (Postmortem Studios, 2017) is the licensed tabletop role-playing game adaptation of John Norman’s notorious Gor series of sword-and-sorcery novels, written by James “Grim” Desborough and illustrated by Michael Manning. Gor is notorious for heavy themes of slavery, sadomasochism, male dominance and female submission, and for long philosophical digressions justifying those themes. Since 1966, there have been more than 30 novels published in the series. The series has inspired a strong cult following, including a small branch of BDSM culture devoted to Gorean style slavery, both in real life and online in Second Life.

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Apr 262020
 

Welcome to Elust 129–

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Unfortunately there will not be a top three judges selection this month. I did not feel that I would be seen as an impartial judge to make the selection. So I have decided to just post the full list. But have no fear, we will back to that next month with our judges in place. If you wish to apply to be an Elust judge you can do so here. If you would like to be a judge I would suggest you read this post on being Sex Positive first.

~ Featured Posts by our Guest Editor (It could be you) ~

Likewise there will not be a Guest Editor this month and if you want to be considered for the future send an email to questions@elustsexblogs.com

The will be no code to republish Eust this month. This will only be for this month.

Erotic Non-Fiction

Vivastreet Interview
Symptomatic: (self) love in the time of…
Putting it in Overdrive

Blogging

I’m still standing
The initiatives of #noEroticon

Erotic Fiction

When Lightning Comes From The East
Latex
Honour Bondage – Up Against The Wall
Pushing his face into her cunt
Fear Fuck
Forced to Orgasm
Tsk-Tsk
In the Realm of the Sensei

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

A Black Eye, A Kiss and a Punch in the Nose
What’s So Special About Unrequited Love?

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

24/7 D/s vs FLR: What’s the difference?
Honor Bound

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Curious and Dominance and submission?

Books and Movies

Romance (1999): The Celluloid Dungeon

Feb 172020
 

In honor of black history month, I want to highlight some of the African-Americans who have contributed to kink and BDSM.

  • Gene Bilbrew, also known as “Eneg” or “Bondy”, was one of the classic American fetish artists of the 1960s, illustrating many magazines and pulp novel covers. See my review of his biography
  • Vi Johnson is a lesbian kinkster who has been involved since the 1970s and currently runs the Carter-Johnson library.
  • ONYX is an organization of Men of Color who enjoy the leather lifestyle, founded in 1995.
  • Mama’s Family is an leather family that founded by Mama, aka Sandy Reinhardt.
Dec 132019
 

Now that 2019 is ending and Gwyneth Paltrow’s GOOP is selling bondage gear and floggers, it’s important to remember that, not that long ago, BDSM was seen as a sign of mental illness. Case in point: The Sensuous Woman by “J”, published in 1969.

The Thing That Turns Him on You Think Is Sick

If he wants to resort to whips and chains or have you urinate on him or something of that nature, I agree with you, I think he’s sick — and he should let you alone and go find a simpatico sickie or, better yet, get professional help.

[Pg. 131]

Note that the author assumes that the reader will be turned off by such activities.

The relevant passage
Aug 192019
 

GENE BILBREW REVEALED: The Unsung Legacy of a Fetish Art Pioneer (African American Artists Series) is the latest in Richard Pérez Seves’ series of biographies of fetish artists and publishers.

Pérez Seves’ previous work on Eric Stanton gave an interesting picture of a man, his work and his time. However, the author has less to work with when it comes to Gene Bilbrew.

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Jun 162019
 

Peter Samuel Cook was a serial rapist who attacked women in their homes in Cambridge, England, between October 1974 and April 1975. He was known in the press as the “Cambridge Rapist”.

There was a peculiarly theatrical quality to Cook’s crimes. Today, we are still grappling with the idea that most rapes are committed by people the victim knew. Cook fit the stereotypical view of a rapist at the time, a socially marginal figure who broke into homes and assaulted strangers. Reportedly, if he didn’t find a victim, he would write taunting messages on their bathroom mirrors.

What’s significant for this discussion is that he wore a black leather hood with the word “RAPIST” literally written across the forehead. What puzzled me was, why and how did Cook get a leather mask? An ordinary cloth or wool ski mask or balaclava would have sufficed to conceal his identity.

Black leather hood of the “Cambridge Rapist”
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Apr 182019
 

Lasting Marks is a short documentary on the infamous Operation Spanner case, in which gay men in 1980s Britain were arrested and tried for consensual sadomasochism. I should point out that the documentary is mostly scans of newspaper articles and legal documents, with a voiceover interview with one of the accused.

Apr 172019
 

In my research, I’ve observed patterns in the past that we still see today.

Cover of Awful Disclosures of Maria Monk

For instance, in the 1830s, a woman named Maria Monk turned up in New York City. She claimed that she had been held prisoner as a sex slave in a convent in Montreal, where she had been subjected to bizarre tortures and told to sexually serve the priests who entered the convent via an underground tunnel. Any offspring of these unions would be baptized, strangled and disposed of in lime pits.

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