Nov 152024
 

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Pleasure Me Now, Virtual Vibrations: Bringing LDR Bliss With Blowjob Machines

Tantric Sexual Healing, Awakening Intimacy: A Tantric Journey to Sacred Sensuality

Erotic Fiction

Fern River Cub, Luc listens in

Lexi Rose, The Message: A Short Erotic Story – Part 1

Modesty Ablaze, “A Naughty Surprise” Part 4 of my Hotwife Diaries Audio Reading

Product Reviews

Sydney Screams, The Bivius Alien Dildo by Uberrime

Morgan Destera, TOY TEST – Funzze Black Fantasy Dildo

Liz X, Kiiroo Pearl 3 Vibrator Review: Remote Play & Video Sync Make It Unstoppable

Sex Toy DB, The Top 5 Squirting Dildos in 2024 to Simulate Ejaculation

Of Sex and Love, Heidi

Erotic Non Fiction

Awakening Your Inner Essence, A Tantric Perspective on Reclaiming Our Inner Worth

Kristina J, Humiliation To Liberation: A Dance Of Desire – 10 Years Of Submission

barefoot sub, Dancing In The Dark

Femina Viva, Managing the “feels” when visiting a companion

Sex Work

Carman Fox, Master Escort Communication

Thornhill Digital, The Future of Labour Rights Within Online Sex Work

Elizabeth, Torture Goddess

Sex Worker Search, Sex Worker Blogs via RSS Feed

Oz Bigdownunder, Oz in Dubai. Australian Halal Sausage is Back on the Menu

Books and Movies

The History of BDSM, The People’s Porn: A History of Handmade Pornography in America, by Lisa Z. Sigel

Writing about writing

Ramone Quides, When One Door Closes, Meditation Begins

Oct 262024
 

Sigel, Lisa Z. 2020. The People’s Porn : A History of Handmade Pornography in America. London: Reaktion Books. Amazon

In the early 21st century, we think of pornography as a ubiquitous, mass-produced, and corporatized phenomenon. Sites like PornHub present the viewer with vast quantities, individually tagged according to theme and sexual act. Advances in video production and distribution technology means almost anybody can make and consume sexual content with a high degree of technical quality and specificity.

Sigel’s book explores an entire history of what might be called “craft” or “artisanal” erotica, produced in single items or small sets, and using a wide variety of media, from carved whalebone to modified mass-produced photos to handmade garments. Many of the items discussed in the book aren’t “erotica” in the usual sense, i.e. items intended to arouse the viewer, perhaps as an aid to masturbation. These artifacts, such as a carved wooden figure of Abraham Lincoln with an erection, might more accurately be described as “adult novelties”.

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Oct 042024
 

“Sado Machismo” is an essay written by Edmund White and published in New Times, 8 January 1979, reprinted in the collection The Burning Library (Knopf, 1994)

White wrote this at a very different time: Not even ten years after Stonewall, before Cruising and definitely before HIV. The collection notes this essay was “… published during the height of Anita Bryant’s anti-homosexual campaign in Florida and in the midst of the Briggs Amendment campaign in California.” Gays and lesbians fighting for their rights to work as teachers were in the news, but a certain kind of “queer chic” was in the air too.

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Sep 272024
 

Storr, Merl. 2003. Latex and Lingerie : Shopping for Pleasure at Ann Summers. Oxford: Berg. Amazon

Ann Summers is a UK brand of lingerie and sex toys, sold by brick-and-mortar stores, by online retailing and by a system of “Ann Summers parties”, in which saleswomen organize parties and directly market goods to the (all female) attendees. These goods include lingerie, sex toys, and related items. In particular, they sell bondage cuffs, light impact implements and other BDSM equipment. The Ann Summers parties are a point where “the rubber meets the road”, where people (i.e. hetero, vanilla women) have their first direct contact with BDSM toys, and the concept of BDSM play in general. Merl Storr’s book, based on interviews with party hosts and participant observation, presents valuable insights into how vanilla/hetero identities can change to accommodate the purchase of BDSM gear, if not the actual use of such.

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Apr 042024
 

There’s not much comfort in saying, “I saw this coming.”

On March 5, social media influencer Libs of TikTok (aka Chaya Raichik) posted the following on X/Twitter:

X/Twitter post from March 5, 2024 (See end of post for backup screen capture)
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Dec 152023
 

Welcome to Elust 168

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Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions, it’ll be here at Elust.

Congratulations @Tiger_Lily_Toys, @s3xw0rkersearch and  @SBestmassage winners of the Elust contest for November. Hope you enjoy your £50GBP gift vouchers.

There are three prizes every month of £50 each for the first three people to publish a unique re-post of Elust.

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Books and Movies

Book Review: Principle Decisions by Thea Belmont

I Love a Man in Uniform (1993): The Celluloid Dungeon

Exit To Eden, by Anne Rice

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

What’s Wrong With Forced Feminization?

A little pick me up.

BDSM Aftercare

Unlocking Pleasure: 14 Essential Prodomme Tips for Baby Subs

Erotic Fiction

Tender Domination

End

Sexy Ghost Story – Mia’s Books

Sex Work

Squeeze me Please Me

Double Deflowering

Happy Poo Emoji

What to Do When Your Sexual Expectations Fail You?

Revolting Prostitutes Book Review

Product reviews

Tracy’s Dog Flowliper Vibrator – Innovative Features and Honest Insights

Review: Velvet Thruster Prime

RawLoveStudio Moonbean Unicorn Dildo

Uncle Bob Silicone Dildo From John Thomas Toys

Qiui BeatPat Electro-Spanker Review: Is This Thing Even On?

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Keeping Your Toys Clean: A Guide to Protecting Your Health and Pleasure

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Nov 162023
 

Welcome to Elust 167

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Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions, it’ll be here at Elust.

Congratulations @s3xw0rkersearch, @ladyinlatex1 and @thebarefootsub winners of the Elust contest for October. Hope you enjoy your £50GBP gift vouchers.

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Product Reviews

Beating Expectations With A Panty Vibrator

Review of the Joi Thrust by Honeyplaybox

The Hottest Vibe of the Year! See the Snail Curve in Action

Review: Magic Wand Micro

Midnight Menagerie Teufl

The Best Fucking Machine to Buy in 2023

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

The Joy of Sex for Menopausal Women: How to Reignite the Flame

Home for the Polydays

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Maintenance Spanking: Why and How To Add It To Your Relationship

Erotic Fiction

Red Panties and Purple Passions

Bedroom Eyes 30

Books and Movies

Queer, Kinky, Poly Dracula And Its (Mis)Readings

Walk All Over Me (2007): The Celluloid Dungeon

Sex Work

Come to Dubai Habibi

Locktober Special

Kink: Prostate massage

On Promises

Facility X Dungeon

Censorship

The F-Machine Gigolo Fucking Machine

Aug 162023
 

Welcome to Elust 164

Elust is the only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month.

Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions, it’ll be here at Elust.

Congratulations Sandra, winner of the Elust contest for July. I hope you enjoy your £50 GBP voucher for Selfridges.

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Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Engaging With A Mistress – Never Compromise Your Personality & Get Your Energies In Check

5 Oddly Specific Penis Facts You Didn’t Know

Public Displays of Affection

Books and Movies

TammyJo and Peter Discuss Bound (2015): The Celluloid Dungeon

Erotic Fiction

Fumbling Toward Ecstasy

My Mistress

Dedicated

Bedroom Eyes 27

My Buddy Blew Me While We Watched The Game

Tasty Erotic Morsels

Product reviews

New Tenga Puffy Soft Reusable Masturbators Review

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Ten Things I Am Not – Kinky Edition

Effective Punishment for Subs: A Comprehensive Guide for D/s Dynamics

Sex Work

Cross Dressing Threesome with Ellie and Nikita

The one about Financial Domination

Her: My first time with a woman

Krásná kurvička. A Trio of Duos

Strap-On Workout

What is the Most Popular Sex Worker Name?

Erotic Non Fiction

Pleasured

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Dec 172021
 

Hooven, Valentine. 1997. Tom of Finland: his life and times. New York: St Martin’s Press.

One thing I’ve been curious about in the life of Touko Laaksonen, better known the world over as Tom of Finland, is did he participate in BDSM?

Hooven’s 1993 biography explores the deeply closeted, all-male, outdoors world that formed Laaksonen’s sexuality. There were a handful of bars and cafes in 1940s and 1950s Finland that catered to gay men, but they upheld a culture of effeminacy he didn’t care for. (Hooven makes the point that the “queen” stereotype was a way of asserting gay identity publicly in decades past.) His way to be gay was to partake in furtive, anonymous, nighttime encounters in parks, bus stations and the like.

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